On Commitment Phobia

Commitment phobia tends to be a painful experience for both the individual engaging in the pattern and the people involved in their lives. There is often a sense of push/pull in these “relationships”. The root cause has to do with the family of origin survival patterns. Both men and women can suffer from commitment phobia.ContinueContinue reading “On Commitment Phobia”

CBT 101

According to Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT), the following cognitive distortions affect our cognitions, emotions, and behaviours: All or Nothing Thinking or Black and White Thinking – eg. “Either I do it right/perfectly, or not at all.”Mental Filter – only paying attention to our failures, not our successesJumping to conclusions – knowing with certainty what othersContinueContinue reading “CBT 101”

Inter-dependence

The Individualist ideology heavily reinforces the concept of independence. The term is often used within the context of empowerment and self-reliance. While becoming independent may be an important next step in our journey, from dependence or victimization, it is important to recognize this step as a pit stop, rather than the finish line. And ifContinueContinue reading “Inter-dependence”