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Decisions

Our present is actually a reflection of our past decisions. Whether we realize it or not, consciously or unconsciously, we are making choices and decisions every moment, every day. What we sometimes don’t realize is, every decision we make comes with a consequence, including our decision to not make a decision. There’s no escaping theContinueContinue reading “Decisions”

Relationship Compatibility

As a couples therapist, I see a lot of couples in my practice experiencing relational challenges due to a variety of internal and external factors. I have noticed through my work with them, there seems to be a protective factor that differentiates couples that tend to become more resilient together from those that tend toContinueContinue reading “Relationship Compatibility”

On Commitment Phobia

Commitment phobia tends to be a painful experience for both the individual engaging in the pattern and the people involved in their lives. There is often a sense of push/pull in these “relationships”. The root cause has to do with the family of origin survival patterns. Both men and women can suffer from commitment phobia.ContinueContinue reading “On Commitment Phobia”

CBT 101

According to Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT), the following cognitive distortions affect our cognitions, emotions, and behaviours: All or Nothing Thinking or Black and White Thinking – eg. “Either I do it right/perfectly, or not at all.”Mental Filter – only paying attention to our failures, not our successesJumping to conclusions – knowing with certainty what othersContinueContinue reading “CBT 101”

Women Empowerment in the South Asian culture

When it comes to women empowerment, it is important to explore the psychological underpinnings of cultural influences, and parenting styles on the development of gender norms.  Parents, particularly in the South Asian culture, tend to restrict their girls’ opinions and silence their voices, in the name of “niceness”, “respect”, and “obedience”, fearing societal shame, andContinueContinue reading “Women Empowerment in the South Asian culture”

Inter-dependence

The Individualist ideology heavily reinforces the concept of independence. The term is often used within the context of empowerment and self-reliance. While becoming independent may be an important next step in our journey, from dependence or victimization, it is important to recognize this step as a pit stop, rather than the finish line. And ifContinueContinue reading “Inter-dependence”