Tag Archives: mental wellness

Are you Fearful in Relationships?

When we fill our void with someone, we temporarily fill our wounds with them and become dependent on them. We begin “needing” them. This person in our life is now needed for survival. That is a heavy burden and a lot of pressure for that person. Sometimes, we know this is a band-aid for ourContinueContinue reading “Are you Fearful in Relationships?”

Healing Indecision

Lately my conversations with some of my clients have centered around indecision. Let’s explore indecision from an Internal Family Systems perspective. IFS believes your internal parts are part of an internal family. Indecision within your internal system may be a protector part, protecting you from something. When we are feeling indecisive, it means we areContinueContinue reading “Healing Indecision”

Happy Holidays

Wishing you joy, love, and peace this holiday season.The holidays can be tough for many people, especially if you are away from family, experiencing grief and loss, or going through a mental health challenge. Happy Holidays to those who may be feeling alone this season, as they are in the process of setting boundaries withContinueContinue reading “Happy Holidays”

Self image issues in young women

We are currently living in a world where young girls and women are competing with a standard of beauty that is unfortunately not real. Thanks to social media filters, our definition of “beauty” has become something that actually does not exist. At the same time, we are seeing increased rates of plastic surgery, body dysmorphia,ContinueContinue reading “Self image issues in young women”

Good Enough

A belief of not being good enough is often deeply rooted in Trauma. It cannot be changed cognitively alone, through reality testing. Healing occurs through long-standing relationships where the person’s goodness is reflected back to them over and over again. For how long? Long enough for the right hemisphere to truly take it in.

Hypervigilance – a protective part

Trauma survivors often develop protective parts that help them survive their trauma. One of these parts is called the Hypervigilant part. The Hypervigilant part in Trauma survivors prevents them from spontaneously engaging in day-to-day life without triggering the “alarm system” of the brain. If this is you, start by noticing when your Hypervigilant part becomesContinueContinue reading “Hypervigilance – a protective part”

Childhood Sexual Abuse

Childhood sexual abuse is more common than we think. Perpetrators are more commonly family members, siblings, close relatives, someone the child trusts or looks up to, rather than strangers. In a research article published in the Journal of Child Sexual Abuse in 2015, Zeglin, DeRaedt, and Lanthier reported, 1 in 5 girls have experienced childhoodContinueContinue reading “Childhood Sexual Abuse”

Food for Thought

Sometimes life can get tough. We go through times when we start feeling overwhelmed, anxious, stressed, depressed, or discouraged. We might feel like we are losing hope or worse, we may have lost all hope. If this is you today, imagine you are looking at a picture of a large circle. This circle is yourContinueContinue reading “Food for Thought”

Affirmations for Depression

I am allowed to voice my emotional pain. Even if it makes others uncomfortable. Even if people are tired of hearing it. I don’t have to silence my voice or my pain to make people stay. I don’t have to pretend. Everyone goes through pain at some point in their lives. I don’t have toContinueContinue reading “Affirmations for Depression”