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Anxiety
I love teaching my clients unique ways to help them learn how to cope with their Anxiety. Here is one of them. On a piece of paper, list everything that is on your mind right now. Keep going. Write down all your thoughts. All the things you “have to” get done. Everything on your mind…
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Boundaries
From a Family Systems perspective, sometimes the “Black Sheep” is the one who sees the toxicity and sets appropriate boundaries, which may include distance/walking away. Please know this is okay.
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Decisions
Our present is actually a reflection of our past decisions. Whether we realize it or not, consciously or unconsciously, we are making choices and decisions every moment, every day. What we sometimes don’t realize is, every decision we make comes with a consequence, including our decision to not make a decision. There’s no escaping the…
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Relationship Compatibility
As a couples therapist, I see a lot of couples in my practice experiencing relational challenges due to a variety of internal and external factors. I have noticed through my work with them, there seems to be a protective factor that differentiates couples that tend to become more resilient together from those that tend to…
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On Commitment Phobia
Commitment phobia tends to be a painful experience for both the individual engaging in the pattern and the people involved in their lives. There is often a sense of push/pull in these “relationships”. The root cause has to do with the family of origin survival patterns. Both men and women can suffer from commitment phobia.…
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CBT 101
According to Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT), the following cognitive distortions affect our cognitions, emotions, and behaviours: All or Nothing Thinking or Black and White Thinking – eg. “Either I do it right/perfectly, or not at all.” Mental Filter – only paying attention to our failures, not our successes Jumping to conclusions – knowing with certainty…
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Women Empowerment in the South Asian culture
When it comes to women empowerment, it is important to explore the psychological underpinnings of cultural influences, and parenting styles on the development of gender norms. Parents, particularly in the South Asian culture, tend to restrict their girls’ opinions and silence their voices, in the name of “niceness”, “respect”, and “obedience”, fearing societal shame, and…
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Inter-dependence
The Individualist ideology heavily reinforces the concept of independence. The term is often used within the context of empowerment and self-reliance. While becoming independent may be an important next step in our journey, from dependence or victimization, it is important to recognize this step as a pit stop, rather than the finish line. And if…
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Just a few gentle reminders If all you did today was breathe, that is okay. If you find yourself surrounded by darkness, be a light. If someone did something that made you sad, please know it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. If you don’t want to smile, you…
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