Tag Archives: relationships

Are you Fearful in Relationships?

When we fill our void with someone, we temporarily fill our wounds with them and become dependent on them. We begin “needing” them. This person in our life is now needed for survival. That is a heavy burden and a lot of pressure for that person. Sometimes, we know this is a band-aid for ourContinueContinue reading “Are you Fearful in Relationships?”

Would you like to feel safety within?

If you want to feel safe within yourself, you need to have a felt sense of safety somatically.This comes from experiencing safety relationally with a safe human being. Typically, this role will be fulfilled by our caregivers. But in cases where the caregiver was unable to provide this safety, we would struggle with feeling safeContinueContinue reading “Would you like to feel safety within?”

Happy Holidays

Wishing you joy, love, and peace this holiday season.The holidays can be tough for many people, especially if you are away from family, experiencing grief and loss, or going through a mental health challenge. Happy Holidays to those who may be feeling alone this season, as they are in the process of setting boundaries withContinueContinue reading “Happy Holidays”

Relationship Compatibility

As a couples therapist, I see a lot of couples in my practice experiencing relational challenges due to a variety of internal and external factors. I have noticed through my work with them, there seems to be a protective factor that differentiates couples that tend to become more resilient together from those that tend toContinueContinue reading “Relationship Compatibility”

On Commitment Phobia

Commitment phobia tends to be a painful experience for both the individual engaging in the pattern and the people involved in their lives. There is often a sense of push/pull in these “relationships”. The root cause has to do with the family of origin survival patterns. Both men and women can suffer from commitment phobia.ContinueContinue reading “On Commitment Phobia”

Inter-dependence

The Individualist ideology heavily reinforces the concept of independence. The term is often used within the context of empowerment and self-reliance. While becoming independent may be an important next step in our journey, from dependence or victimization, it is important to recognize this step as a pit stop, rather than the finish line. And ifContinueContinue reading “Inter-dependence”