When we fill our void with someone, we temporarily fill our wounds with them and become dependent on them. We begin “needing” them. This person in our life is now needed for survival. That is a heavy burden and a lot of pressure for that person. Sometimes, we know this is a band-aid for ourContinueContinue reading “Are you Fearful in Relationships?”
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Misogyny within the Pakistani community
More men, particularly men from the Pakistani ethnicity, need to be taught what it means to be a healthy man, a feminist, and an ally. Unfortunately, too many are raised with toxic masculinity, misogyny, an inflated sense of entitlement, gender-based double standards, and even narcissism. They are taught and encouraged to be bullies, oppressors, andContinueContinue reading “Misogyny within the Pakistani community”
Childhood Sexual Abuse
Childhood sexual abuse is more common than we think. Perpetrators are more commonly family members, siblings, close relatives, someone the child trusts or looks up to, rather than strangers. In a research article published in the Journal of Child Sexual Abuse in 2015, Zeglin, DeRaedt, and Lanthier reported, 1 in 5 girls have experienced childhoodContinueContinue reading “Childhood Sexual Abuse”
On Authenticity
I have noticed some thoughts brewing in the back of my mind lately. Thought I’d pen them down and maybe make sense of them. Disclaimer: these are just thoughts stemming from my life, observations, my internal dialogue, and rumblings. Please note none of these are intended to judge or criticize anyone. Okay, so let’s see.ContinueContinue reading “On Authenticity”
Food for Thought
Sometimes life can get tough. We go through times when we start feeling overwhelmed, anxious, stressed, depressed, or discouraged. We might feel like we are losing hope or worse, we may have lost all hope. If this is you today, imagine you are looking at a picture of a large circle. This circle is yourContinueContinue reading “Food for Thought”
Affirmations for Depression
I am allowed to voice my emotional pain. Even if it makes others uncomfortable. Even if people are tired of hearing it. I don’t have to silence my voice or my pain to make people stay. I don’t have to pretend. Everyone goes through pain at some point in their lives. I don’t have toContinueContinue reading “Affirmations for Depression”
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You are not burdening anyone. Allow yourself to share. You deserve the same kindness you give everyone else.
Emotions
Happiness is not a simple choice. Nor is it realistic to expect consistent happiness over time. To feel, acknowledge, and express our full range of emotions is more authentically being human. We need to stop shaming those struggling with difficult emotions, so they stop blaming themselves, and feeling like somehow they are “failing” or theyContinueContinue reading “Emotions”
Anxiety
I love teaching my clients unique ways to help them learn how to cope with their Anxiety. Here is one of them. On a piece of paper, list everything that is on your mind right now. Keep going. Write down all your thoughts. All the things you “have to” get done. Everything on your mindContinueContinue reading “Anxiety”
Boundaries
From a Family Systems perspective, sometimes the “Black Sheep” is the one who sees the toxicity and sets appropriate boundaries, which may include distance/walking away. Please know this is okay.
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